Jan. 6, 2021

#24 Aubrey Huff- 2x MLB World Series Winner, Father, Patriot


Aubrey Huff is a 2 time MLB World Series winner, patriot, and father of 2. He is an unapologetic tweeter, and really great guy. I was a little nervous for our podcast because I thought it would piss off a lot of people, but it was one of my favorites to date. I really loved getting to know him, and I hope you enjoy this as much as I did! Give Aubrey a follow on twitter https://twitter.com/aubrey_huff 

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0 (5s): Okay, 1 (5s): Buddy, you're listening to Chatting with Candice. I'm your host. Candice tore back before we get started on this week's episode. If you want to support the podcast, you can go to Chatting with Candice dot com, where you can sign up for our Patriot account. Or you could click that little link that says, buy me coffee. Both things helped me tremendously, like seriously, as a dollar helps. The benefit of being a Patrion is you get early access to episodes. You get shout outs, we're in eventually start doing some live AMHS. So you do get a lot for your contribution there, but again, seriously, any of that helps or simply leave a review. All of those things are really important, especially when I'm just getting started this week. I'm really excited to introduce Aubrey Huff I mean, he doesn't really need an introduction. 1 (48s): He's a two time MLB World Series winner. He's a, Father a, Patriot a very opinionated tweeter without further ado. Aubrey Huff 0 (1m 5s): Hello? Hello. How's it going? Is it Candice or Ava or, or, okay. 1 (1m 13s): It's always so weird. Cause you don't know. Everyone's like, well, which one do I call you by? And like most performers hate like acknowledging that the real them is the actual person. So for me, it's like weird to address the fictitious person. Oh, that's a cool studio. You got there things. Yeah, Amazon soundproofing. 0 (1m 32s): There you go. There you go. I T I was doing a podcast for a little bit and I just didn't enjoy it. Yeah. 1 (1m 38s): I was going to ask you about that because I was listening to a bunch of your episodes and then I noticed it just kind of stopped. 0 (1m 44s): Yeah. It was just, I don't know. I thought I would enjoy it. I never really liked the media when I played, so I don't know what I was thinking, but yeah, it was okay for a time. It was always trying to figure did my toes in this study, different things to see if I'd enjoy it. And it just wasn't for me 1 (2m 2s): Now I'm just sticking to Twitter for now. 0 (2m 4s): Well, yeah, we'll see what happens. I like be in the guest. I don't like hosting, right? Like, I don't know, like doing the work. 1 (2m 9s): Totally understand. It's so much easier being a guest. Anytime I've been on someone else's podcast, it is way less stress. And I feel like they tend to go on the same direction. So it's just easy. And then when you're hosting, especially if you haven't met the person, then you were like, well, what if there is this awkward silence? And then what if I forget like the points that I was trying to make and it's a lot more nerve wracking. 0 (2m 31s): Yeah. Especially on the zoom things right now. It's all I like it. One-on-one when you're face to face is a lot easier. You can kinda play off each other a little bit better. The energy's better. 1 (2m 39s): I've only done one one-on-one because I started this whole thing and like the pandemic. So it was definitely a lot better. Like you just have to pick off each other's energy and it's a lot less awkward for sure. 0 (2m 49s): So what's the dynamic of this show and I cut us out. What's it called? 1 (2m 53s): Oh, for sure. Anything. Okay. I, I was listening to another podcast with this other guy to follow and they kept bleeping him out and I was like, what's the point? It's a podcast. Right? Like if you're getting offended by a swear word, I feel like you just shouldn't leave the house. 0 (3m 6s): I know there was a lot, there was a lot of people that shouldn't leave the house anymore. So that's a good thing about this pandemic, right? 1 (3m 12s): No. Yeah. So it's like total free for all, whatever you want to talk about, whatever you want to say. Totally. Like no filter, none of that stuff. 0 (3m 20s): Okay. Candice let's ah, so my boys wake up at around nine. I got a tutor coming that's okay. If we can keep it around it. And then I got homeschooling. Perfect. Oh, I love that. Yeah. Cool. Okay. 1 (3m 32s): I wanted to start off a little bit with your baseball career and you've been kind of open about you struggling with depression after you quit playing or stopped playing. I think that with a lot of high performers, they have that similar struggle, right? So it's almost like the higher, the Hi the lower, the low. And you have all of these neurochemicals when you're playing all of these dopamine spikes and serotonin spikes. And you're just, just experiencing life to a degree that a lot of people won't. So when you stop having that exposure and you come down to like, I guess the real world expectations, how did you self-correct that you didn't stay and this place of like depletion, if you will. 0 (4m 13s): Yeah. I don't know. I don't think a lot of people really realize how difficult it is to transition as a professional athlete. I've played 13 years and basically every night, you know, especially with the end of my career, the last three years of my career, especially I I was in the playoffs twice and won the world series in 2010 and 12. So you were in on national television and you got 40,000 people screaming at you. You're on first class flights. You've got a beautiful servers serving you a beer in first-class meals on the flight. You've got a five-star restaurant everywhere. You go, things that are free. I mean, you're, you're a rock star, you're a celebrity. And you know, it just feels like everything's catered for you. It's a unicorn life is absolutely amazing. 0 (4m 53s): And then when it stops scan and it stops like that, there is no like gradual decline. It just it's over like that. And, and so to get that adrenaline rush that, that high, that, that spoiled lifestyle, if you will, it just doesn't exist in the real world. And I feel like whenever I got out of baseball, I was still chasing that, trying to find out how I'm going to make a $500,000 every two weeks, right? How am I going to it to replace that 40,000 people screaming at me or walk into a restaurant where everybody notices you that doesn't happen anymore and nobody gives a fuck anymore. Right? So it took me a while. And honestly it took a couple years where I struggled mightily with depression. 0 (5m 35s): Just what's my identity. If I'm not Aubrey, Huff the baseball player, who am I, what's my purpose. You know? And, and I, and at the time I still do, I had to boys and I wouldn't thinking in this way, because my whole life, I was a baseball player. How do I navigate through this? And then one day I realized, okay, either a I'm going to have to kill myself. Cause I can't keep living like this, or I'm going to have to figure this out. And it, there was a point that it was not 2014, two years after I retired everyday, I was going through daily depression, crime, myself to sleep at night, a daily panic attack that would come almost, almost daily. 0 (6m 18s): So I was battling both of them the same time. And it was five o'clock two years after I retire. I'm having dinner, make a dinner with my ex-wife at the time I'm cutting up the vegetables she's cooking. My kids were playing Legos in the living room floor, having a panic attack again, as I told my ex, I said, Hey, I got to go to the closet and do my thing, whatever. We usually go Papa Xanax. This time, it didn't pop his Xanax, go to my closet. I hit my knees and I would just start crying. I just I'm, I'm freaking out. I'm, I'm just, I'm over it. And I'm looking at this full length mirror at the time I had like a wife beater on, right. I had the tattoos on, so I got these tattoos and a goatee and shaved head. And I looked like this bad-ass motherfucker. But deep down, I was just, I hated who I was. 0 (6m 60s): I hated what had happened in my life and what I've lost. And in that moment I just said, fuck it, I'm done. And it was typed in a little code and my se pulled out a three 57 Magnum, pull the hammer back. And I put it against my temple, looking at myself in the mirror, on my knees, in my closet. All of a sudden there was a select this flash that went through my mind of my dad and my dad years earlier when I was six years old was murdered by a three 57 Magnum. I was a kid. Yeah. So it was like, it was like full circle, like this flash of like, wow, I didn't even know where it came from. And so I put the gun down, started crying. I started yelling like in a closet at God, you know, and because I grew up in Texas as a Christian, but I just didn't understand why I couldn't be happy. 0 (7m 48s): And then it just kind of have to, after a hissy fit like a teenager, yelling at his Father, you know, that's what I was doing in my closet. And it just kind of came to me that you've been identifying yourself as a baseball player. These last two years. You're no longer based off where you are a husband and a father B that you are blessed that you got everything you've ever wanted. You got 99% of the things that every man's ever wanted just now enjoy it. And it was in that moment where I just kind of really started appreciating what I have instead of what I lost. And it was that changed everything. And it was just a mindset in my mind shift. And that experience kind of opened me up to it. 1 (8m 22s): Oh, that is a very powerful story. There's a couple of places I want to go with that. So I always say that like, when you identify yourself by like these external factors, especially when it's a career and especially if that career tends to be like a celebrity or public figure, that that can be very problematic because the shelf life of all of that is so little, right. Compared to almost any other industry, like you are, you have an expiration date. So if you put too much emphasis on this thing, that's finite, like what do you do with it? It's gone. Right. And it's understandable that you get anxious or panic attacks or depression because that's how you've identified. So I think it's really important to kind of like dig down and find out who you actually are, like outside of these things and like finding faith and finding family. 1 (9m 10s): Like those are really great pillars versus something that you know, is going to go away. So it's kind of similar with me, but in a different aspect. Right. So I did porn for 10 years and 0 (9m 22s): Somebody, I didn't know that, Oh, 1 (9m 24s): You did it. Yeah. Yeah. So like, I constantly get put into this box where people want to stereotype me and identify me as that. And for a long time that like I started getting anxious. I go to the point where I started getting like social anxiety and I've never had that before, but I would walk into a room and I would be like, everyone knows what I do. Like they recognize me, they're judging me dating. I'm this terrible person. Am I this terrible person and all of this like crazy inner dialogue that took a really long time to kind of get over. But I was listening to Jyzelle bunch and talk. And she's obviously like this wildest successful supermodel that now spends a lot of her time on her platforms talking about spirituality and like conservation and, and all of that. 1 (10m 9s): And everyone's like, who is she? She was just a dumb, super model. And she was like, I'm not a super model. Let's do something that I did. Right. So that's how I started to reframe it as well as like, I'm not that that's just something that I did. So I think it's so important for people to really find out who they are. Would you say, like in that moment, was it almost like an instant, like you kind of, like, I knew that you have to start looking at things with gratitude or was there like a process, 0 (10m 34s): You know, honestly, the minute I walked out of that closet, I had like basically stayed there for like an hour, hour and a half yelling, crying. I mean, there was a lot of, you know, I think as a guy, a lot of men, especially ex athletes were taught to be warriors out there and not to let any emotion and it kinda put this wall up. And, and that's what I learned in it even went into my home life, right, where you just have this wall of emotion, you keep in a bottle of whatever is bothering you. You just don't show emotion and I've done them my whole life. And in that two hours, I think I let all that emotion. And it was almost like I was a balloon ready to pop. And the minute I walked out of that closet, I felt way better way looser and felt like I knew what I needed to do. 0 (11m 18s): And I knew what I wanted and what I wanted. It was nothing I didn't need anything. Right. And then I was trying to replace a life that is hard to replace with something else that I didn't know what to do, but I like it. So I just said, you know what? I'll never have to work again. I've made plenty of money. I was begging for this. All of these years, I was playing mid summer is when I was dying on these six hour road trips. Now I'm here, let's enjoy it. And it was literally a mindset, like a shift in that moment. And the next morning I woke up and I just felt at peace. Right. It was weird now is not to say that I didn't still experience some. Discontentment definitely had some days more often than not that probably within the next six months after that, where I was just kinda of like fighting that old self and that all way of thinking, but it didn't control my life anymore. 0 (12m 8s): The panic attacks started getting less and less to the point where they just kind of dissipated or the next six months. And I started weaning off my Xanax over that course, that six months. So it was a mindset in that moment immediately that they got me excited. And that gave me that because you can't do anything. I don't think unless you make a decision and you get excited about it. If you just say, okay, I think I'll give this a try. You'll never make it. You got to be excited about it. You've got to make the decision. And I did in that moment, all of that closet, and I'm going to change my life, my way of thinking. And you know, through those, the next six months, I'll just everyday day got better and better and better. You know, I think that's one thing that everybody reaches out to me. He had you get over the anxiety and depression and it, it happened overnight. 0 (12m 48s): And I think everybody in this quick fix social media and news driven world where everything wants information. Everybody wants information, quickly things down to them quickly, a quick pill. I hate to say this to people, but it did take me a little time. It may be different for others, but it's a decision that you've got to change your mindset. You got to figure out what's really going on in your head because you just can't mask it with the pills. Right. You got to figure out what's really triggering you to thinks the way you think. And then what do you figure that out? Like for me, it was still identifying myself as an ex baseball player when there was no evidence to the contrary. So, you know, once I stopped doing that and then decided that I was just going to be the best dad has been, I could be in a while. I'm divorced now. 0 (13m 29s): So, but, but it would be good, but I'm still a way for me, my boys, for everything and my message of getting all of this out here, we are talking about all this, all of this stuff is I think helping a lot of people. And that's another thing that I think people need to realize is one of the biggest things for me is talking about it. The more you talk about your anxiety and your depression and share it with others, it's scary at first, it may even make you panic a little bit more than you would normally, but the more you talk about it with other people, the more you talk about with people that are struggling, the more you heal. And when I do these on podcasts, I got to tell you Candice first started talking about this, a podcast, even that would have to like call a timeout and be like, I can't even get to that story myself and the closet with a gun to my head without having to take a quick time out because I was hyperventilating just talking about it. 0 (14m 22s): And now I'm so at ease talking about it on stage with the kids, you know, wherever I go, sometimes I do some public speaking, obviously not ablate with a pandemic. I hate that word, but that's what the media has done to us, right. With this bullshit, fake virus out there. And that's what I call it. But yeah. So the more I've talked about it, the more, I've been honest with myself, the easier it is. 1 (14m 44s): Yeah. I think that's really powerful because like you said, like you are like this very masculine man, right? Like you, you were a professional professional baseball player. You've got like the beer, the tattoos, all of this. And then here you are talking about your emotions and, you know, advocating to talk to other people about your emotions. And I think there's such a huge misconception that if you are this masculine man, you're not allowed to talk about your feelings. And I think we need to kind of get rid of that garbage because it's doing a lot of harm. Like men suffer the most when it comes to suicide rates. Right. We don't talk about that. And you're seeing like a spike in depression with young boys. And there's a lot of reasons why we're seeing that. 1 (15m 24s): We're not fixing it by saying like, you can still be masculine and have emotions if those things don't have to like oppose one another. So I guess what's your advice for someone who's like, I'm too manly to talk about being sad. Like, I'm sure you probably have some of those messages or like DMS that are like secretive. Like what advice do you give someone who thinks that those things can't coexist? 0 (15m 45s): Well, I know they're lying to themselves first off. I, the, the, these people that, that the men that are coming out of, you know, I don't need all that emotional nonsense. I know deep down probably it's if it's not happening now, at some point it will, will, you'll be crying yourself to sleep at night. You know, you have to have somebody to talk to you. Can't keep all that stuff bottled then. And I don't care who you are. I don't care if you are the top of your profession. And as a CEO is in the sports arena, whatever it is you do. I don't care how many, a few of the biggest Hunter in your group, out in Texas with the biggest beard and drink the most bud lights. I don't know. I don't care that eventually it's going to catch up to you in, unless you, unless you get in touch with your emotions. And I know that sounds like, you know, in this day and age where, you know, I think men are under attack more than anything, you know, and I think it is starting with our school systems where the young boys, you know, they're, I feel like the gender roles are trying to be reversed in today's age. 0 (16m 33s): You know, where society is trying to make men, women and women, men, and it's confusing. And I think it confuses men more than anything. I got a lot of thoughts on this, but I think as kids, especially as a father of two young boys, I've S I've kinda, my eyes are open what's happening. And in the world of, in the schools or teaching these progressive ideals, and you know that there is an attack on our young boys and girls and society, teaching them, you know, I think agents four or five, they can choose their own gender. What planet are we on? You know, usually it is that I don't care if you wanna be bisexual, if you wanna be transgender or do you want to live your life the way you want to live your life. And you're 18 years old to make that decision, you'd go nuts. 0 (17m 15s): I don't care. But when you start trying to indoctrinate our kids at such a young age, that's where I fucking draw the line. It pisses me off, you know, and that starts in schools. You know, as a young boy is like, I was a rambunctious young kid. And whenever I was in school, I, I was in detention all the time. And, you know, teachers thought there was something wrong with me and give him some Ritalin, making him calm down. My mum wouldn't do it. Okay. Yeah. And there was a lot of the boys out, and boys are rough there while you know, the stuff that Gillette commercial, you still have to let commercial with the boys wrestling of the yard and you guys are barbecue, no guys, or do you know, like this is a sign of they're supposed to wrestle, you know? And, and you're confusing them boys. 0 (17m 57s): And when they become men now, and that's why I think we see all these kids now that our 18 to 25 year old kids that are begging for free college, they're hitting the streets, riding, protesting, because they've been given everything they're whole life to be told they're special there, the participation trophy generation, I call him, Candice where, you know, they've never had to earn anything. They had a trophy for third, a third place right now, there are in the real world. They've realized it doesn't work that way. You have to actually earn your first place spot. And now they're pissed and now they are on the streets and they're easily manipulated by what's going on and what they're told to do. So there's just not a lot of strong men raised in, and I blame society. And I'm blaming a lot of parenting as well, but not be able to see this. 1 (18m 40s): Yeah. It's tough because you do get some parents that maybe are working so much that they're not able to be as involved or that they may be naively trust the school system to be taken care of their kid's is they would take care of their kids. So they're not asking the questions when the kid comes home, like, what did you learn today? Like, tell me what teachers, so, and so said about this, right? And just like really double-checking everything I was listening to someone's podcast, or maybe it was in a book where you were talking about a lot of the best all-boys schools. Like in the world, they don't even have like chairs, but they don't have chairs for the boys because when they're younger, because they don't expect a boy to be able to think and sit at the same time is what they're saying. 1 (19m 21s): So they, they understand these biological differences. And rather than like punish a boy for being a boy, they say, you know, we expect you to be a little bit crazy and rambunctious. And if you want to run around the class, that's fine. Get it out. We also have to learn these things. So I was reading something that said that you weren't like ever into politics, or really voicing your opinion too much. Like while you were in baseball, would you say that having your boys like got you more involved in these like social topics and made you want to use your platform to spread what you think is the right way to go? 0 (19m 51s): A 1000000000%? Like when I played baseball, actually Candice I didn't, I didn't even know he was president didn't care. I was hitting baseballs. I figured it out. And it took a slider with 40,000 people, Boomi handling the media people all the time is enough to worry about. I didn't need to worry about politics, honestly did not care. I feel like so many people in this world make an excuse about who is president for their life. Sucking. Like, I don't know. I played 13 years. I have played through multiple presidents and not one time that I know he was president all I knew I was making bank. I was, I was hitting bombs and cash and checks didn't care who it was. Right. So I hate when people blame the situation on the government or our president is, you know, right now, even if, as I'm a Trump supporter, as you know, if Trump does it pull this out and Biden is in fact, our president, like people in my messages to all the time ha ha binds your president. 0 (20m 44s): And like what a motherfucker, guess what? I'm still rich. Okay. How about you? Yeah. So that was one thing that, you know, and I didn't want the distractions of politics being an athlete. You see all these social justice warrior athletes now and they lose half their fan base. Right. You know, because you know, they're going to divide them. Most fans want to come to the game to see athletes play. They want to be distracted from the outside world for the politics. They want to come to a stadium to watch athletes play sports. That's what they're paid to do. And then when they hear their favorite athlete, phew, social justice warrior stance is like LeBron James and all these, it you're just like, I don't want to hear it as an athlete. I knew that. 0 (21m 25s): And playing in liberal San Francisco for three years out of my last, my career, I knew that if I had came as a conservative guy and at the time Trump wasn't even close to be a president, it was 2010 through 12, but you know, it was a conservative and I had a strong views. I could never come out to San Francisco and say, I am a conservative guy for them and they'd hate me. So I just kind of left that. And I wasn't very heavy into social media. We never did any of that stuff. And then once I retired and that kind of got through all my issues and I had my boys and I started watching what's going on around the world and just kind of cluing out. I've started to become an adult. And I'm trying to see what's happening for my kids' futures. 0 (22m 7s): If I was single, well, I am single, but if I had no kids, I would be down on in the mountains, in a van down by the river. And like, Oh, Chris Farley said back in, starting out life, watching the world burn wouldn't care. I don't care. But I have two boys and I have to be aware of what's going on the world in society with what our society is trying to do for our children, boys and girls. Like, and I think it's mostly, you know, I think that's more of a, an attack on young boys and be quite honest with you. And it's pissed me off in this race as me, it's raised awareness for me. And it's been a pretty big part of what I've been doing on Twitter and Instagram, things of that nature, which I thought, oddly enough, I'm censored like a son of a bitch right now. 0 (22m 50s): Oh, Oh my gosh. It's it's, it's unbelievable. Both my Twitter and my Instagram is I may as well, not even be posting right now. And that's how, you know, your telling the truth. 1 (23m 1s): See, you know, I feel like your engagement is pretty solid. I would say like comparatively, I was like looking at your account and a couple of other, like a comparable ones. And mine is like, so throttled and it got throttled when I started like reposting, certain conservatives and like voicing my conservative thoughts. And then all of a sudden I just saw my engagement tank and I'm like, this doesn't even make sense. Like, it doesn't make sense. So I'm like maybe just like take a break. And then like, hopefully that goes away. Or 0 (23m 29s): My Instagram is terrible right now. I mean, it's worse than my Twitter. My, are you on follow me on Instagram? I don't know. I know 1 (23m 35s): You have to actually do that in the car because I remember you mentioned your handle. I'm one of your episodes. 0 (23m 40s): Okay. So on my, I have a verified blue check Mark on my Instagram. Right. And you cannot find my account unless you type in my username all the way to the very last letter. And even then it's the very bottom blue check Mark of all our choices for my name is unbelievable. 1 (23m 58s): My God. Yeah. I'm scrolling right now and it's, I don't even see it, you know, 0 (24m 2s): Type in Aubrey Huff you want me to see it and you're not there. So you have to put in Huff daddy, 76. And even when you put Huff daddy seven, it still didn't come up until you put the six it's. It's unbelievable. 1 (24m 16s): You're not joking. 0 (24m 18s): It's a very, it's like the very bottom in it. 1 (24m 20s): Yup. Well, I just to give you a follow up, 0 (24m 25s): I mean, my post, I was getting probably on my Instagram, 50,000, 60,000 likes on each post with 502, a thousand comments. Now 2,003,000 likes with maybe 30 comments it's unbelief within the last month it's just happened. 1 (24m 40s): Oh man. Yeah. It's not fair. It's really not fair because I feel like that's when we all learn who we are and what we believe is when we're challenged. And if you just live in this like echo chamber of everyone is saying like, this is the only way to think you can't grow or find yourself. And I think that's why you see so many people that are unhappy is because they don't, they haven't done any of that work and they haven't been challenged. 0 (24m 60s): Like I'm a huge obviously pro American. I'm a guy from Texas, right? I believe in the second amendment, I believe in the first amendment, I think what's happening more than the biggest fight we have on our hands right now is the, the fight for our first amendment rights. You know? And the freedom of speech though, the world is just a bit, gosh, being a guy in the locker room, you know, all these years and the language flows freely, needless to say, and the world has become so sensitive. So soft. So pussified it's it's the, this political correct nonsense is just killing me. And we are as a society placating to all of these people that it's a small percentage of society that gets offended by everything. 0 (25m 46s): And we're stepping aside and appeasing. These people like, fuck them. I don't care. Like I'm not going to do that. So I tell my boys, if you have a thought, if you have an opinion, even if it's against a teacher, especially against a teacher to today's World you can listen to your teachers at school when it comes to, you know, science or math or, you know, all of these things that they're teaching. But when it comes to them, talking about their opinions and their theories on life, I want it to be like that Charlie Brown episodes, right? With the teachers like walk, walk, walk, walk, walk, walk on. But it goes one ear out. The other is I want them to think for themselves. 0 (26m 26s): I don't want my kids to necessarily be Republicans or Democrats or believe what I believe in. I want them to have the freedom to choose for themselves. And I feel like that's what we've lost. Now, this country, the freedom to choose for ourselves and our first amendment rights. And it's a scary place Candice we were living right now. And I don't think this society really understands what's happening. We've been taking all these things away over the last eight months. One thing, every like two or three weeks, it's just going to pop into our brains. It's been slowly manipulated into us to know that we are as a society like sheep. And everybody's just, okay, it's tyranny. We don't even see it. Most people, 1 (27m 3s): Most people. Yeah. I remember one of your tweets. I think it was like today or yesterday. And you were like, just so you know, and I know a couple of months it will hit the one year Mark for the two weeks' to slow the spread. I'm like, how is there anyone more outraged? So my husband owns a couple of restaurants in both of those are obviously getting hit pretty hard. But thankfully in North Carolina, its not as restrictive as say like, you know LA specifically, but if you spent the last decade of your life building a company and then the government just has you can't open. I don't understand how people aren't more infuriated. Like it, it got down to that level of lockdown in North Carolina. I promise you we'll stay. We're staying open. Right? We're not going to tell like let our governor tell us what we have to close our doors. 1 (27m 47s): Like how does that make sense? But that's not an American, but for some reason we have like so many people that are just so agreeable and they just want to comply, comply compliant. And you have to ask why like none of this makes sense. Like I just re posted this video of this woman who she's now not even allowed to do outdoor dining in California and right in the same parking lot, they have tents set up for a production crew and that's allowed. 0 (28m 10s): Yeah. So Candice I live here to San Diego. I'm I'm two hours South of LA governor Newsome. That's our governor. You guys complete dictator. What it shows this fucking guy is I can't even tell you how bad there's. There's a very few people out there that I would walk down the street and want to just he's one of them. But yeah, that's, that's the one thing that drives me. Absolutely bat shit crazy is, is this are these small business owners. They bitch, bitch, bitch and complain about their businesses, about to be shut down yet. They follow every mandate to a T like anybody comes in to their store and the rest, you know, please make sure you have your mask over your nose all the way you walk in to the restaurant and then sit down. 0 (28m 53s): Then you can take it off. And they're always bugging you with a mask nonsense and all these little mandates and all of these things. And then when their order to shut down, they do it immediately. Yet they bitch, bitch, bitch. Okay. I understand the first time that happened, okay, everybody is shutting down. I give you a pass on that. Nobody knew it was going on. I feel bad for you now this now the second time this was coming around and you continue to listen to these dictators to radical governors and they defy their own orders. Yet you have to shut down and you do and you listen to them. I no longer feel bad for you. You deserve what is coming to you. So you don't have a spine. You can't breathe for yourself. 0 (29m 33s): And people are like, well, Aubrey, that's very assistant for you to say, because what if they have to pay a fine, would you rather pay the, or go bankrupt and lose your business? And to me it's unconstitutional for them to find you. 1 (29m 47s): Yeah, I was gonna ask. So like, what's the deal with the fines? Because I know there's one gym in Jersey specifically, that's been getting a lot of press and I want to say it was like 4,000 a day or something that they're getting fined 0 (29m 59s): And Smith. I had him on my podcast when I had my podcast on. So we're buddies, right? We're Boyd as we keep in touch with all the time. So he's Ian Smith. He's got a gym up in Jersey. He's been spitting in government, governor Murphy's face over the last eight months just staying home, but just giving him the proverbial middle finger. Right. And governor Murphy got to a point where I think he even got arrested, taken to jail overnight. He was bailed out. Obviously he's got a GoFundMe for all his lawyers fees. I think it's up to like 400 some thousand now. And he's getting fine. He's been with Tucker Carlson, like four times big beer guy. I think he was getting fine. Like I think $19,000 a day or so. And so he's not paying it is just tallying up, tallying up. 0 (30m 42s): It's literally unconstitutional for the government to find you for keeping your business open. So any of these fines that they give you just wipe your ass with it. That's the way I look at it. Yeah. 1 (30m 53s): That's what I've heard too. Is that like at the end of this, if you do take it to the courts that it's just going to get knocked out, 0 (30m 60s): It just, it's just going to cost you a lawyer fee, right? It is to get yourself. And I would assume most lawyers are probably going to not really hammer home on this, you know, and, and kill you with the fees. I mean, I think it's gonna be, so there's going to be so many people bad on these files is going to be overwhelming for the courts are going to toss it out. There is no way that we are going to be able to uphold this stuff. And what I am seeing out here in California and with the media is not showing that you won't see on the media is a lot of businesses are fighting back and saying, screw you and they're staying open, but you noticed the media and don't show that because they don't want people to be encouraged and emboldened, right? They want to keep people in fear that everybody's doing it. No, not in fact, here in Southern California, most businesses are still open. 0 (31m 40s): There's a most restaurants are still open. They're still eating outside. A lot of them are still just doing takeout. But I think if people are just like over it, and to be honest with you, what cops are going to enforce this stuff? Most cops aren't because most of these are democratically held cities where they want to fund the police because most cops get it. Most men in uniform, whether it be military firemen, cops, et cetera, athletes, I'd say vastly 80% plus are conservative. So they're not going to be, they're not going to listen to this bullshit either. 1 (32m 11s): Do you think that is because I agree. I would say like definitely most military and most law enforcement tend to be conservative. So do you think its just because they tend to be more constitutionally conservative? Or why, why is that correct? 0 (32m 25s): I think it's because most of the, most of the people that are in the military, their country, the country boys, or you know, and grow the country and that's typically, you know, you grew up loving God and country and you're taught the value of hard work most, you know, et cetera, you know, we're capitalists, you can be a liberal and be a capitalist. So most athletes, entertainers want to keep their money. Which baffles me. Why Hollywood? So many people are, 1 (32m 50s): I don't get that either. I'm like, do you want to just light it on a plane? 0 (32m 54s): Right. Right. Which leads me to believe they're getting, they don't, these are the people that talk about it, but they don't have to pay their taxes. I guarantee you they're probably getting kickbacks, especially the big followers on social media. But yeah, I think a lot of it's just because you know, most athletes, you know, we work hard and we're raised right. I think that vastly, the most conservatives grew up playing outside rough and tough and out hunting and playing and working out and playing sports. And we took our schooling seriously, not to say we're stupid, but we did that. It wasn't like we weren't, you know, bookworms and listening to the teachers and listening to the media and being indoctrinated by the television as a society. I think that's another thing. 0 (33m 33s): Predictive programming, kids watching all these crazy cartoons nowadays and things that, you know, there's that subconsciously getting into their head. So, you know, I think that's a big thing. It's a good question is to be quite honest with you and I've given a lot of thought, I can't give you a for sure answer, but that's my theory. 1 (33m 50s): No, I think that makes a lot of sense. I just don't I'm always curious about that because we're, we see someone to judgment when it comes to someone even being moderate nowadays. Like if you are not like way left of center, then you're the enemy and you're this terrible person. But then you have to look at these people that have like an innate sense of duty. Like it takes a very, very brave and specific type of person to sign up for the military or to sign up, to be a police officer. And most of them tend to be conservative. So how are we going to demonize these people that are literally risking their lives for your freedoms? Like we can't say they're all bad, so there's something there. I'm sure someone's probably done a study, but I just wanted to get your, your take on it because I think it's so interesting. 0 (34m 32s): Yeah. I, I don't know. As, as athletes, especially, I know this, you know, and I, and I I've tweeted this out before and people are like, Oh bullshit, no way. I would say more baseball than anything. I can't speak for NFL or NBA. Cause I know that this would not be the right number, but I would say baseball players, I'd say 85, 90% of the base off there is a concern. But yeah, if you, if you think about baseball, baseball as a Southern sport, it's play the spring when it's got to be warmer and it was a little cool and North, so you don't have a lot of light people up North is, you know, you, you tend to get more liberal up in the Northern States, right? So you don't have a lot of baseball up there. Most baseballs, Arizona, Florida, Texas, you know, the Southern States and you know, all of a sudden States, you know, most kids playing baseball are raised in that conservative arena. 0 (35m 21s): And so that's, that's kind of my theory on that. And you know, when you're playing football, you play football on the Winner that's up in the Northern States, you know, I'm a basketball, same thing, play it in the winter. It could play, play it anywhere. So I just kind of feel like how you're growing up and when your sport has played during the season, it kind of dictates how grew up. That's about as good as theory as any, I think boys play sports. Okay. So they're kind of X games, sporters, which was drives me fucking nuts to be obviously I grew up in Texas and I live in Southern California. Now people are like, how the fuck you still live there? I'm like, unfortunately I'm stuck. I'm stuck. I can't leave. I got to split custody with my boys and my ex loves it here. 0 (36m 4s): But I guess it's, it's easy to love living here when you're getting paid $20,000 a month in alimony. Right. 1 (36m 12s): Okay. 0 (36m 13s): So yeah, I'm stuck here, but that's okay. I mean there's worse place to be stuck. So they like surfing. Well, my oldest life surfing, my youngest likes boxing, which is pretty cool. I'm trying to get my youngest into baseball more. Cause he's got my throws. Right? He has left it. He's got it. He's got that swing where I know he's 10 years old. I know he's got to swing to, to have a chance if you know, if he wants it. Right. But the challenge today with kids' is, do you have kids? Yeah, 1 (36m 45s): I have one. He actually turned this one this week. 0 (36m 48s): Congratulations. Awesome. Yeah. It was a Sagittarius baby. 1 (36m 51s): Yeah. Oh, I love that. You have to build the Zodiac. Yay. 0 (36m 54s): Yeah, I'm a Sagittarius myself. So December 20th, it's coming up. I'll be 44 and nine days. Thank you. Wait, what was I talking about? 1 (37m 6s): She is set up to have a chance at baseball. If he wants it. 0 (37m 11s): Lunch is getting these kids off technology nowadays, right? Like every there's so many distractions out there for video games, et cetera. No, I'm not a video game Nazi, but I've had to realize how to battle this right away. And I think as we have a one-year-old that tell people this all the time, here's a great way to handle it, to say they're on iPads. Right? And whatever their devices are, an iPad typically last four hours, possibly five hours on a full charge. You charge it all week. Right? We charged it on a Sunday. Its got a, a, a a hundred percent power. You give them that iPad or whatever device it is. They want, okay, you got about five hours on this device throughout the week. You can play all five hours right now. Or you can space it out throughout the week. 0 (37m 53s): Now the first week they had it, they burned it out within the first week. Right. And then after a while, after, after a while they started realizing, wait, I can only play a certain amount of time and I'm going to get screwed tomorrow. So they'll only play like 20 minutes at a time on an iPad, you know? And then they've got it down to where they're only playing like 25, 30 minutes a day. And they know exactly how many, how it will all make a play throughout the day it's worked out. Right. 1 (38m 19s): That's pretty brilliant because it's not like completely taking like your understanding, like this thing exists and you can't completely get rid of it 0 (38m 26s): That, and it gives them responsibility to understand how to, to dictate their time and to use these things responsibly. Now don't get me wrong. There's certainly times a single dad. And when I got to boys 12 and 10, where they're driving me bat shit crazy. I'm like, you know what? Go downstairs. I don't care for three hours. I don't care. I just need my I'm going to take on a nice movie, the bottle of wine. And you guys go play your video games. Certainly there's time for that. And I'm okay with that. But you got to stay sane somehow some way. 1 (38m 59s): Yeah. I was going to ask him why he were still in California. 'cause it just didn't make sense, but that all adds up. So I know you earlier, you mentioned like you are homeschooling. Is that just because of like lockdown? 0 (39m 11s): Yeah. So my ex and I, you know, we get along great. Actually, we actually, we're great with scheduling. We're very civil, so that's great. And I'm always wondering to homeschool then one year to try it, especially the way the public school systems that are now mostly in California, I'm 100%. And so I figured this year, what better year to do it? Because we had the chance to put him back in school. Everything was starting to open up again, you know, and we're thinking that they're going to a public school. I was like, no way I saw was coming. Right. We kick back up and December schools and closed down again were going to pay all of this money for a private school to put him in. And then we're going to be learning from home, still paying $12,000 a month. 0 (39m 51s): Let's just go ahead and homeschool. So we were a homeschool. We got the tutor that comes by everyday for three hours. They, they knock their workout and three hours. So from nine to 12, they're done. And then we have the rest of the day to hang out and what's cool is like, I can take 'em on a trip and anytime I want to just hop in the truck and we'll go on a trip, they can learn, they can do their tutoring online and FaceTime with their tutor. Or if they have a question or that you can just do it on their own. It's really simple. Even I can do it if I wanted to, but I can't be a dad and be a teacher at the same time. It doesn't work. What do you not for me anyway. I don't have that kind of patience. 1 (40m 26s): No, I don't think I would either. We go back and forth with the education stuff. So it's nowhere near as radical as it is out there. So I guess like how, how old are they? No, 12 and 10. So one of my girlfriends lives actually a pretty close by to you. She was explaining some of the stuff that she has to have her kid go to. Like, one of them was like the sex ed and it was pretty wild. I think it was in sixth grade. I don't know how the older you are in sixth grade to 12th. Yeah. So in sixth grade they were having their sex ed class. And if you didn't like, have your kid, like a reason for pulling them, like you could get fine. But what they were teaching them is like alternatives to sex include. 1 (41m 11s): And they start like listing toys and they listed anal sex for a kid. And I'm like, this is so crazy because I didn't even know that was an option until like college. Right? Like I didn't know that there was other things that we could do. You know what I mean? Like I was just very, I guess, naive or innocent, whatever it was, but I'm like, Oh, that is way too young. And that's so dangerous. It's like the easiest way to get an STD. You can get seriously injured. Why are we teaching that? And then that's what the state is saying is appropriate. So I guess as someone who's conservative or moderate, or just recognizes that this isn't appropriate, how do you handle issues in the school system system with two boys? 0 (41m 52s): You know, it's funny Candice I mean I'm and I was my oldest son's age, 12 years old. I was trying to figure out how to talk my heart on, into my belt buckle. Right. That, that was that it was the biggest problem, right? That was the biggest, a sexual thing we all have to worry about is, Oh my gosh, this is what they have to deal with now. So right now, thankfully, where I live, we haven't had that issue yet where you heard about any sex that in our, in our kids' classes, et cetera. But the next year he goes to junior high school and in a different school so that it may be a different story. I'll have to find out. I know there's a lot of influence in public school systems, but I also believe that if you're well in tune into your child's life, as a parent, you can kind of eradicate all that bullshit. 0 (42m 39s): When they come home, would you learn a skill today? You can tell him what's nonsense. What's not, and I'm always feeding them on my views. Right. But I also tell them, you know, I want you to, does this make sense to you? What did I say makes sense to you? Does it feel good in your gut? Does it feel good? And your spirit, your heart, if it does believe it, if it doesn't kick it out. So, you know, they'll come home with some things that they say as a school and look, yeah, that sounds, that makes sense. Or that doesn't. So, you know, you got to be really wary, especially in the, in the public school system, what your kids are learning, what their teachers are saying. And what has been really cool about this online learning was you've seen some of these videos of these teachers, like parents catching them, talking about trying to indoctrinate their kids into this liberal bullshit, talking trash about Donald Trump, trying to really speak to their political ideologies on to them. 0 (43m 28s): And so that's been kind of eye-opening over in the last year or two. 1 (43m 31s): Yeah. You're gonna start seeing more parents that get involved. Like I was talking to GAD sad. He was just on the podcast. And he was saying with one of his kids, he noticed that like, there are a little avatar. Like they had something in the background that was all BLM while she was teaching. And he immediately e-mailed like the superintendent under the principal. And he was like, this is why it's an appropriate four teachers to express their political views. Like that's just not their role. So I think we're just seeing a lot of bleed over as to like them trying to take what our traditional parenting rules and like stances and like they're trying to fill those spots, which is really inappropriate. I think I know we don't have a lot of time, but I did want to mention you talk a lot about like your gut and instincts and that being kind of like a spiritual cue, which I think is so interesting. 1 (44m 19s): So I've only ever heard one other person say that. And I totally agree. I think when you have like that gut reaction or like your intuition is telling you, like, this is wrong, this is right. It's whether you want to it God or the universe, everyone has like a different name. It's like telling you like, ding, ding, ding, you're like on the right path. Or like, no, you need to nudge over. And so many people don't pay attention to that where I think that it's like a very woo woo. So what, like when did you start making that connection? Because like, again, I've never heard anyone else say that except for one person. So I thought that was really interesting. 0 (44m 51s): I don't know. I, I was never like a, a book smart kid. I was, I was an ABC student. I always tell my kids get A's in what you're good at and pass what you were not. And that's kind of how I grew up as a kid. I was terrible at math. I'd barely got by a pastor. I was awesome in reading English and writing spelling, ironically enough, I, but there was a subject I certainly struggled in it, but I passed. Right. I was well-rounded and I have a, I don't know where it comes from, but it's this really good and common sense. Right? I, in my eye, I say I got common sense, not so much books smarts. And I have a really good ability to read people and understand people. And, you know, especially when I'm face to face, I was a really good at the clubhouse with each particular teammate on how to interact with them and treat them to get the best out of him, you know, and ask if it takes some of the greatest managers have that too, or making him look at a player and you know, some guys need to be cuddled and to get the best for them. 0 (45m 49s): So maybe to get their ass shoot out and tick to get the best out of him, I needed to beat you out to get to be the best out of how to me, but I've always been very good at it. And being able to read people and just have this gut feeling, I call it common sense. And I don't feel like the world has any common sense anymore. I always tell my boys, I would rather you guys to be able to look somebody in the eye, shake their hand, be conversational, the charismatic, be personable and make it to 0.4 in college and be able to look your CEO or your boss in the I. When you come in for an interview, be magnetic, be engaging, be fun, be confident, and to be a nerdy little fucker coming out of Harvard and it goes in with is 4.4 GPA. 0 (46m 35s): And it goes into an office, you know, to a CEO to do an interview with him. Well, yes, sir. I'm very qualified on that. Can't even look you in the eye. They have no personal skills is done on a computer all day. They have no idea how to be personable. So especially in today's society, go fuck your GPA and you are, and your diploma, all of these things. I don't think it's, I think it's irrelevant. You know, any more, especially in colleges with all the way they're indoctrinated our kids in colleges. It's, to me, it seems like we're starting to kind of level it to that world where we're all going to be working remotely and from home. And that's one thing that I think that we've learned throughout this last year is, you know, a lot of businesses realize that we can work from home. You can do meetings for a mom. 0 (47m 15s): You don't need to be in front of people all the time. And I think that's kind of dangerous in a way, but that's going to be the world we live in. And I think those kids are not going to be few and far between being able to be personable. Cause we are going to relying much on technology today. So that's for me just to raise my kids, to get to know how to be human in a world full of technology. That's that's for me, one of my biggest things, 1 (47m 39s): I think that's a great place to end. That's like a very great, very wise lesson for people to take home. 0 (47m 45s): You guys Huff daddy. Yes. And I know nobody ever called me wise. 1 (47m 49s): I think that, I think you're you say some very wise things. So do you want to tell the listeners where they can follow you and how they can keep up to date with all of your future endeavors? 0 (47m 58s): Yeah. If you can find me on Instagram is H it's Huff daddy, 76 and my Twitter is Aubrey under the score Huff and I'm actually coming out with a t-shirt line and apparel line called alpha American apparel. And it's going to be a very patriotic, very, pro-America kind of funny things on t-shirts hats, et cetera. And that's going to be Aubrey Huff dot com and that's coming out here in the next probably couple of weeks or so. So that would be fun too. 1 (48m 27s): Awesome. Very exciting stuff. Well, thank you again. I appreciate you giving me your time this morning and hopefully we can do this again. 0 (48m 34s): Absolutely. Candice for a nice way to you. You too. 1 (48m 36s): Okay. That's it for this week's episode. I hope you enjoyed it. If you have the time please rate and review and you can always hit subscribe to stay up to date with our latest episodes. I hope to have you back.