Contrary to popular belief, losing weight takes more than just eating less and there are a multitude of factors that affect how a person manages their weight. Because of some last minute changes with a guest, I go solo for this episode and give my take on diet culture as a woman and a mom with PCOS, Graves’ disease, and now Hashimoto’s disease.
00:00:00 00:01:35 Misconception of Calorie Deficit
00:05:20 “Just Eat Less, You Fat Fuck”
00:12:22 The Importance of Sleep
00:16:10 Effects of Cortisol in Women
00:18:05 Having a Healthy Relationship with Food
00:19:24 Body Positivity
00:22:24 Influence Without Outrage Economy
My Fitness Journey
I recently had my new baby and while that has been amazing, it kicked off Graves’ disease into Hashimoto’s disease. It’s still an autoimmune disease but is now much slower and makes it harder for me to get rid of the extra ten pounds. Because of my colorful fitness journey, I truly believe simply telling people to get up off their ass and eat less is not helpful at all. While diet plays an important role in weight management, there are so many other factors such as sleep and hormones that make it almost impossible to lose or gain weight. I’m here to debunk all these myths on diet and exercise by sharing my own personal perspective and journey towards achieving my fitness goals.
Candice flies solo for now and gives the feminine perspective on diet culture and the body positivity movement.
0 (0s): Can you be influential without partaking in the Outrage economy? Can you be influential by being kind? Can you be influential by speaking truth without having to add the extra flare? Hello everybody. This is Chatting with Candice. I'm your host, Candice Horbacz. If you are watching, you might notice that things look a little bit different. So we have official setup and I'm so excited about it because for once I feel like everything kind of looks more like it does in person. 0 (40s): I look more like me, my studio looks more like itself. And that's just a great feeling because there's nothing worse than seeing yourself all over the internet and being like, that doesn't, that's not my face. So yeah, really excited that you can kind of see me and the studio in better light. Really excited about that. So we're doing something a little bit new this week and I think it's one of the pitches that tends to happen when you are doing virtual podcasts. Sometimes there's tech issues, sometimes a guest doesn't show up and you can't get ahold of them and there's just a lot more variables that you kinda have to deal with. So we are doing a quick solo episode just with me giving you some updates on my life topics that I was actually actually supposed to cover with a guest previously that bailed last minute, which is very bad etiquette, but things happen. 0 (1m 35s): So I'm gonna try and do this by myself. Bear with me. Let me know how I do. I'm really nervous. Before we jump into the, my updates in the topics, if you can hit like and subscribe wherever you are listening or watching, that helps me a ton with the algo. I could use all the help I can get. We are a little podcast that could and it takes all of us. So I appreciate you. So we we're going to have on a, I'm making sure no one can see my notes cause I don't wanna give it away. A pretty big polarizing talking head in the mano sphere. And I was actually really excited because I was gonna try to provide a little bit of a devil's advocate perspective, the feminine angle and just kind of challenge some some of the things that I think he says that I don't agree with. 0 (2m 21s): And then talk about some of the things that I think are very helpful that he's putting out there. And in a strange turn of events, a lot of it had to do with diet and nutrition and you'll, I guess you'll see why that is kind of perfect timing. Let's dive into it. We were gonna get into the Misconception of Calorie deficits. So I think it's really easy when you are trying to talk about weight loss and accountability and don't be a fuck and stop being lazy if only it were that simple. And I think sometimes people say things like that because it obviously gets a lot of views, it makes people feel a very specific type of way and then they wanna comment and share and it's great for engagement and marketing. 0 (3m 10s): I don't think it's great for reality though. So I've been pretty open about my health issues, whether it was with PCOS, which has a huge effect on your hormones and your metabolism and the way that your body kind of deals with sugar. I've been pretty open about my Graves disease, which was is an autoimmune thyroid disorder with Graves diseases. It tends to be hyperactive for those of you that don't know. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you have a really rocking metabolism and you can eat whatever you want. So it basically, in with a lot of people that I've met makes like these really big swings with your, with your metabolism and the way that you can kind of put on weight or lose weight or lean muscle mass, whatever it is, it just kind of throws all of your hormones into wax. 0 (3m 56s): So there's like a lot of variability when it comes to how you look. So I recently had my new baby as some of you know, and while he is amazing, that journey has kicked my Graves disease into Hashimoto now. So now still autoimmune but now it's slow and I just cannot get rid of the extra 10 baby pounds. And the first time around it just shed like I didn't have to do anything. I blinked and the weight was off. This one, I'm working out, I'm working on my diet, I'm getting my blood panels done every six weeks and my, my hormones are just chaotic. My testosterone is non-existent, my body is trying to attack my thyroid. 0 (4m 39s): So it's, it's not fun. So when you talk about a Cal Calorie Deficit, there are a lot of people that do have hormonal imbalances, whether it's for autoimmune PCOS, Graves disease, Hashimotos underactive or overactive thyroid and a whole host of other things. So while I do think it's important to mind what your diet is, it's also an if not more critical to know where your blood panel is at. So you can find a hormone doctor, an endocrinologist, they can run these tests for you and you can kind of check where your hormone levels are at, where your vitamins and minerals are at and then kind of get like a good starting point. Cuz if all of that is out of whack, you could potentially be doing everything right and still be either not losing or gaining weight. 0 (5m 24s): So when you have someone who's all chiseled and telling you to stop being a lazy piece of shit and just lose the weight, I say fuck off because there's a lot of people that have X factors that they're not dealing with. So we got that outta the way. The other thing I wanted to get into with this guest, and I guess we'll just go on a solo rant about is mindset. So they've done some pretty interesting case studies when it comes to to mindset. One of them was on the Andrew Huberman podcast and they had two groups of people and they gave them the exact same milkshake. One of them they told, you know, this is a delicious milkshake. It's got all these Calories, all this Fat, it's a milkshake. The other group they said this is a nutritional drink, it's got all this protein in it, it's low carb, low sugar, it's a health drink. 0 (6m 12s): So all that was changed was how they delivered what this strength was to the control groups. So the group that had the milkshake, the one that they knew was a milkshake, showed all of the biological markers for like, like a high glucose spike and how you would expect that to react in their body. The group that thought it was a health drink, no spike, like their body thought this is a health drink. So by consequence the other group is more likely to put on weight than the other. So mindset's also very huge going into like a weight loss journey and how you kind of wanna get in charge of like your own health. 0 (6m 53s): Another interesting indicator when it comes to Just, Eat, Less, You, Fat Fuck, I just have to say it because this guy says it. I'm like you're missing the whole point when it comes to just simply eat at a Deficit and you'll lose weight. They've also done studies with the microbiome. So that is like all of the bacteria that's living in your gut. You have healthy bacteria, unhealthy bacteria, you have a whole bunch of hormones that are being pumped in there. It's a very complex system. So they've done fecal transplants from obese rats, mice, one or the other and they put 'em into otherwise healthy lean rats are mice, some kind of rodent. 0 (7m 35s): When the fecal transplant was complete, the the otherwise healthy mouse started getting like cravings similar to the obese rodent and started putting on weight and then it was working out the same, you put it on a healthy diet, couldn't lose the weight because the gut was saying that this was an obese environment. So if your gut microbiome is completely out of whack, that's another contributing factor to why you might not be losing weight. So again, you could be eating at a Deficit but if everything else is out of order it's simply not gonna work. So there's other tests that you can do to kind of check the state of your microbiome. There's books that you can purchase on like resetting your gut. 0 (8m 15s): I'll try to find a couple that I've read and then link them in the descriptions below. It's a ton of homework but if you're trying to get your health in order, it's definitely worth the investment of just reading a few hours and getting one of these books down. And then just tackling each problem individually so you can start wherever you kind of think the issue is, whether it's with your gut or with your hormones or with both if you have the time to kind of attack it from both angles. For me and my journey, cuz again it's still very new as far as my transition from going to hyper to hypo is, so far what I've read is a lot of it has to do with leaky gut. So with leaky gut it's basically your stomach lining is very tight. 0 (8m 55s): And for those, those of you that are not watching, I'm kind of putting my hands together to kind of show that lock. And when you have leaky gut, it kind of breaks that barrier. And when that barrier is broke, a lot of things kind of seep out from your gut into the rest of your body and into your bloodstream. And then that's no bueno. And then your, your immune system is essentially goes on high, high, high alert. So we're gonna start with trying to heal my leaky gut cause I'm assuming that's, that's probably public enemy number one. We are gonna get rid of gluten sugar, dairy and what was the other thing? Limit alcohol. And I love my wines, that's gonna be really hard, but we're gonna try there. So I'm, I'm starting tomorrow. 0 (9m 35s): You can keep me accountable. I'll be sharing what I'm eating and you know how I'm changing my diet on social if you wanna follow me and see some recipes that are gut healthy, but it's gonna be, it's gonna be hard cause I love my carbs but my health is more important and me being able to play with my kids and keep up and not have extra weight on me and not be achy from this thyroid condition is, is paramount. So it is worth giving up the bread for sure. Hey everyone, this is new. So we are taking a quick break for a couple of sponsors. How exciting is that, that we have a couple sponsors for the podcast. So this is new, please don't skip it, just listen, it's cool stuff I promise. 0 (10m 15s): So my first one is a small company called Ragnar's Rocks and I'll make sure I have the link below. As you know, I love crystals and I get made fun of for it all of the time, but I'm, I'm not gonna change my ways and I'm gonna stand by it. I truly believe in them and I think that they're beautiful so sue me. But he sent me, I mean how incredible is that? He sent me this beautiful amethyst, I've got this really cute rose quartz skull. All this is on my table you can't see, but when I start doing two cameras you'll be able to see my little setup and this cute little crystal Buddha, how adorable is he? These bracelets are from there. 0 (10m 57s): I mean I was really stoked to have him as a sponsor because this is right up my alley. So if you're into any crystals or you just wanna check out the website, it's wagners rocks.com and I'll link that below. And the last affiliate last sponsor, please don't skip, this one's a good one. So we all know the benefits of fasting. Well my husband and I have used this company ProLon actually a couple of times. So I was really excited that they wanted to be an affiliate of podcast. So if you wanna try ProLon, it's a fasting mimicking diet. So you get all the benefits of a water fast and it's a lot easier cuz you get this delicious food instead of having to completely eat nothing. 0 (11m 37s): So you can try ProLon for $150 with the code. Candace, some of the claims for, and I mean I say claims but I'm going off of the script guys, 60% of people that completed the fast had better energy, mental clarity and focus. You'll definitely shed some lbs. I felt a ton lighter after doing it. It's cool to do difficult stuff and obviously fasting is not easy. So it's kind of cool to see how you can kind of push it and get through something that you thought you might not be able to do. It's a lot easier than just doing a water cleanse. And again, like you, I think the average here, yeah people lose an average of 5.7 pounds and 1.6 inches off of their waistline. 0 (12m 22s): So soon as I'm done breastfeeding, I'm doing one of these and Eric's supposed to be starting anytime now, so we'll see when he decides to start. So I'll link that below. Again, if you wanna try ProLon, you can try it for 150 bucks. Use code Candace. And let's return to the episode sleep. How can we not talk about sleep? We're talking about weight loss. So especially for women, Cortisol is our number one enemy when it comes to trying to stay in shape, keep pounds off, feel like a functioning, arriving human. So obviously having a new kid that's gonna put your hormones in chaos, you're obviously not sleeping, which is probably what kind of triggered that reversal in my thyroid. 0 (13m 7s): So for a lot of us, we don't prioritize sleep, we prioritize hustle, we prioritize getting our tasks complete and kind of who can be working the most, getting the most views, likes dollars, whatever it is, you'll find that you have more time and more energy if you actually prioritize. I was watching this podcast and it was with a sleep expert said, if you rounded, rounded to the closest whole number for percentage of the population that could sleep on less than I wanna say seven hours of sleep, it would be zero. And you, I wish I had a Jamie to fact check that, but I think it was seven hours. 0 (13m 52s): Anything less than seven hours is is 0%. So anyone who's like, I can run off of four hours, it's like well that's gonna, that's gonna fall out underneath you very soon and there's gonna be some consequences. And I can tell you as someone who struggled with health issues is not worth it. So prioritizing sleep, getting good sleep hygiene, eliminate eliminating light before you go to bed screens, kind of setting yourself for up for success, maybe doing some breathing exercises. I plug other ship all of the time, other ship is a breathing app. I've had the founder on the podcast, Robbie Ben. And they have so many different types of breathing, whether it's for getting energized in the morning or kind of calming down before night, they have stuff that you can do as a couple. 0 (14m 38s): It's just, it's a great app and I, it's not an ad, I just really highly recommend it and love it. So getting yourself into a state that's ready for successful sleep, kind of like you would if you have a child, right? You have your your their bedtime routine and it triggers their brain to start winding down. You have to do the same thing for yourself. So whatever that kind of looks like for you. Eliminating the lights in your bedroom, making sure the temperature is down, you know, around like 65, 66 degrees. I do 67 cuz I'm a baby and we also have small children so that's as cold as we'll go. But yeah, sleep super crucial. So if you're not looking at things like hormones, metabolism, mindset, microbiome, sleep, that's a whole lot more than a Calorie Deficit and a lot more important for your health from a holistic standpoint. 0 (15m 28s): I think when you look at deficits too, kind of gets into it is purely anecdotal but I know a lot of people would've had similar issues. When you're eating all of this trash that's sp Splenda, diet locale, low Fat, ultra processed, it can actually start to wreak havoc on your body. Like you can do your own research, I'm not gonna get in into all of that, but if you're not eating Whole Foods, you might be at a Deficit and you might even initially lose a bunch of weight. But you are kind of asking for trouble in my opinion when it comes to long-term health, inflammation, other diseases and disorders that might happen from some of these chemicals and additives that are in the food. So I think that there's a way to get there and it might be a lot slower if you're just doing it with whole foods and maybe more Calorie dense foods than all of this processed locale stuff. 0 (16m 18s): But I promise you on the other side it's gonna be a lot better. Based off of my my own personal journey, I did wanna ask this guest about the effects of Cortisol, especially with women because as we mentioned, that is a huge factor when it comes to achieving your health and Fitness goals. So when I switched from doing super hardcore like hit high intensity weight training, I just always felt very inflamed. I never felt like I looked how I wanted to look and I was, I did have muscle mass but it was just bulky and I wasn't lifting crazy heavy, I wasn't eating a ton to, you know, bulk up or anything like that. 0 (17m 1s): It was just my body didn't like that level of stress that I was dealing with. When I switched to doing softer movements like yoga and Pilates and walking and meditation, that's when I had my best body that I was the most proud of. I was the leanest I've ever been. I had washboard, stomach, lean, deep, puffed, no inflammation, no stress. So you have to listen to your body, especially if you're a woman. I think working out with your cycle and not doing these high Cortisol evoking movements is probably going to be your friend, especially if you have an autoimmune disorder. I think that the more gentle workouts are gonna get you where you want to be and sometimes you might feel like you're not making progress because you're sitting there and you're doing these little clamshells with your thighs, right? 0 (17m 48s): And you're just kind of pumping away and you're like, this is not the same as obviously doing a deadlift or a heavy squat. But I promise you it'll give you all of that juicy booty that you want without all of the stress. And I actually have a guest coming on hopefully in person and she's an expert when it comes to women's cycles and training for your cycle and how to eat on your cycle and just understanding the fundamental differences between how a man should be working out and how women should be working out and how our hormones play into that. Yeah, I guess the last thing that I wanted to kind of get into with this guest on diet was Having a Healthy Relationship with food. 0 (18m 29s): And this kind of goes into a little bit of woo, but again there was that milkshake study and you can look it up, it's really fascinating. A lot of how you feel about food is going to dictate how your body processes it. So having a healthy relationship with it and not being scared to eat, not being guilty when you do indulge and just reframing your mindset. Like if you were to have a piece of pizza and instead of saying, oh a piece of shit, I need to go run this off. I can't believe I slipped up on my diet and be like, no, there's fats and protein in the cheese and there's protein in the pepperoni and I'm getting a a good boost of energy through the carb that is the crust. 0 (19m 9s): And really try to feel that and reframe it. It's not to say eat the whole pie and make that regular because unless you have a mindset that's iron clad, it's probably not going to work. But I would say you're going to gain less weight and you're gonna enjoy the process. Food is meant to be enjoyed so don't look at it like an enemy. It's just like anything else. You wanna have a healthy relationship with it, not overdo it and indulge sparingly just like most of life's pleasures. But if you're not eating what you enjoy, I mean what are you doing? I guess the last thing, and it's pretty short, I wanted to get into Bos Body, Positivity cuz I think that that's a huge talking point right now, especially with a left versus right and the red pilled versus the woke and whatever these groups of division are. 0 (19m 58s): I would be curious where all the Outrage was when we had the super skinny heroin chic Kate Moss era, like the Tyra Banks being a monster on top model and telling girls that we're 110 pounds that they were plus size. So that to me is just as unhealthy as kind of propping up literal obese models and saying that's also beautiful. I think both are a problem. I think you have to look at what is a healthy body for you. Not everyone is going to be a double zero and frankly a lot of those models are not healthy. I think if you are struggling with weight that it's super important. 0 (20m 39s): Again, it comes down to mindset is appreciating your body. I think that there's a difference between appreciating the body that you have when saying, this allows me to walk, this allows me to climb stairs. There was a part of my journey where I couldn't go up and down stairs cause my Graves were so bad and my muscles had literally atrophied. I couldn't walk up and down my stairs. My fiance and my now husband had to actually carry me. So that was a really difficult time for me because you don't realize how much you take for granted when you do have health. So when I was starting to get better, we went to the gym and I remember sitting on the leg press and I had no weight on it and obviously there's some resistance there, like maybe, I don't know, 25, 30 pounds before you put any plates on. 0 (21m 29s): And I couldn't do it. Like my muscles literally couldn't move 25 or 30 pounds they had, they had disappeared and I was just breaking down and sobbing and being like, if I ever get this back I'm never gonna take it for granted. So there's times where I'm like, I don't wanna do that workout or I find myself in a negative lazy habit and I bring myself back to there and say no. Like you need to appreciate it while you have it cuz nothing is guaranteed. And I think that you can kind of use that in any example. So again, if you have weight, it's not this body positive affirmation like any size is beautiful and healthy because that's not true. 0 (22m 10s): It's what does my body do for me? What am I grateful for? And I should be treating it with a lot more respect and I should be treating it with a lot more care because again, nothing is guaranteed. So just having that value for it and for yourself. So I think that there's a difference between there and it's not just, again, just shame based and begging on people cause they have extra weight, which is again what's gonna get you a ton of the clicks, but that doesn't necessarily make you a good person. So I guess my hope that was for this episode and for this guest was can you be influential without partaking in the Outrage economy? 0 (22m 51s): Can you be influential by being kind? Can you be influential by speaking truth without having to add the extra flare? And my hope is that the answer is yes. We'll see, I have no idea. My hope is that people kind of get exhausted and burnt out with this Outrage economy and they wanna support creators that are kinder and looking at issues that we all agree are issues. If you look at obesity, it is a huge issue for the United States. It costs a lot of money, it costs a lot of lives and it's very dangerous. But there's a way to do it that is you genuine, genuinely want people to do better and to get their health in their own hands. 0 (23m 41s): And then there's one that you're just trying to get clicks. So we'll see how this goes. I was really nervous for doing this and I still am and that's probably why I talked so fast. And this is gonna be really choppy because we're gonna be getting rid of dead space and ums and likes, which I'm working on. I just did it again. Yeah, thank you for listening. Let me know if you liked this solo episode. I promise I'll get better. No one is good at anything the first time that they do it. And I will put this out no matter what because I think it's important to show growth and I'm gonna grow. That's my promise to you. 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