Dec. 14, 2020

The Importance of discomfort


This is an unusual update for the podcast, but I felt like it had to be done. I had a few lessons today about the importance of discomfort and what a wonderful teacher it can be and I wanted to share my thought. 

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Transcript

0 (3s): Okay. So today we're doing something a little bit different. I wasn't sure if I was going to record anything because I don't have a guest today. And it's really weird just talking to a camera without anyone to play off of. I guess it's kind of like shouting into a void and you're hoping, hoping that someone's listening, but it goes along with the theme of this very short but important clip. So I had my third no-show for my podcast, which I guess isn't terrible because we've been going since yeah. June. Well, I think a lot of what happens is people tend to get nervous or apprehensive or something. 0 (48s): There's some kind of inner dialogue that's saying the pain is going to be too much, right? Yeah. Oh, okay. What's the word, the word I could be using, basically it's easier and safer to just not show up and deal with that consequence than, you know, expose yourself to something that might stretch you make, grow and make you uncomfortable. But I think it's very important that we do things that make us uncomfortable because that's when we tend to learn the most about ourselves when we tend to grow, I think it keeps us grounded. So for example, I just started doing my dressage lessons again with, since I just had the baby, I said, just even though it's a year and it's very nerve wracking, I mean, it's a new horse and he's an, a new environment because he's getting leased right now. 0 (1m 39s): So he's a little bit more anxious and then I'm anxious. Cause it's been so long, but I keep showing up every day, I keep doing my lessons every day today. He decided to take off and start bucking with me on him. And I'm a very new rider. So that was very scary. And after I got him to stop, we continued around the pen for a couple more rounds, just to calm down for both of us to calm down. And I'm going to show back up tomorrow because it's so important that we keep exposing ourselves to something that makes us uncomfortable so we can truly grow and constantly be growing. I don't think we're ever done growing. So I'm trying not to shit on the people that either canceled last minute or the two people that just didn't show up because I don't know their circumstances and you know, something crazy. 0 (2m 28s): It could've happened. So I hope that is not the case, but I'm pretty sure it's not, I'm pretty sure it's just nerves getting to someone and that's fine. But I think it's really important that we don't look at things that scare us as bad. And we start developing like a little bit more resilience and a little bit more confidence and to start doing things that stretch us outside of our comfort zone, because it's just so important just like filming this. Right. I didn't want to film this. I didn't want to show up here today by myself talking to avoid with no script and just trying to find my thoughts. And I don't know, I just felt like the map, the message is important. So if you're ever in a situation where you're a little bit nervous, I mean, I, and to further, I guess stress the point, I am nervous as hell and I talk to guests too. 0 (3m 19s): So they're like, this is actually a scarier than talking to a guest. But when I talk to guests, especially lately, I get super nervous. I mean, there are these people that I idolize and maybe put on to a pedestal and read their books and watch their podcasts. And I'm like, I can't believe they want to talk to me. And they're going to think I'm so dumb. And what if they hate my career choice? All of these things like this negative, self-talk that I think we all do, but I still show up and I try to grow and try to perform my best and learn something. And that's what I'm doing here with a solo video. So yeah, I'm not mad if any of you are watching the didn't show up. I'm not mad I get it. But I would challenge you to stretch yourself a little bit more and lean into the discomfort because that's where we grow. 0 (4m 6s): And obviously within reason, right? Like I'm not going to go hop on the horse tomorrow and start doing jumps. I'm not there yet. So within reason, but these small discomforts are so vital to cultivating who we are and finding the higher version of ourselves. Okay. So, so yeah, lean into the discomfort people. Thanks for watching. Thanks for listening. And I'll see you later.